Much of the work I’m doing with clients is continues to be focused on Emotional Intelligence (EI or EQ) so I thought I’d remind us all about EI and share one easy observable measurable.
So much is written and said about what it means and how to become more emotionally literate. There are reams about the benefits of EI and even the pitfalls of EI. Yet after many years of working on EI with clients, with my own coach and with colleagues, last month’s New York Times article by Daniel Goleman titled How To Be Emotionally Intelligent reminded me to keep it simple.
As a reminder, the four skills of EI are:
- Self Awareness
- Self Management
- Relationship Skills
No matter where we are on our EI journey, we can always learn. What I loved about this piece were the last lines Goleman uses to expand on 4. Relationship Skills:
Team playing: People feel relaxed working with you. One sign: They laugh easily around you.
So simple. People laugh easily around you. How easily do people laugh around you? In the workplace? At home? Out and about? Are
you consistent or do you offer different personas for different roles?
My challenge for you: Observe and notice how easily people laugh around you. That’s it… simply observe and notice. Enjoy!
You can read the full New York Times article here.